David Phillips posted this insightful insight into minding the gaps of social media.
Mind the gaps
I’ve been thinking a lot about gaps recently. Gaps as in things not there, left out, held back.I think gaps are crucial in relationships as well, in the sense of what’s not said. There’s a great section in ‘Me Talk Pretty One Day’ by David Sedaris (one of my favourite ever books) about his partner restraining himself from making a cutting remark. Sedaris says that he thinks that’s what love is: not saying hurtful things that you could say.I have a theory that you begin to appreciate gaps more as you get older. Maybe you become less capable of dealing with constant inputs, or maybe it’s a question of greater discernment through experience, I don’t know.
I wonder whether we’re in danger of filling our space with things like Twitter, texting, camera phones, iPods, etc. When faced with a gap, we tend to lunge to fill it, and those things fill gaps really well. But I wonder whether we should instead be holding ourselves back, minding the gaps.
April 17, 2009
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